Is the number of sexual partners your current partner has had a factor in your sex life? There is a common preconception that everyone lies about their sexual history. Men have a tendency to over estimate their numbers while women will often under estimate their previous sex partners.

These preconceptions about sexual history are a part of the society that suggests men should be having more sex partners, making him a stud, but for women having too partners will make her a cheap and easy slut.

These factors can cause issues in some relationships if men feel intimidated by a woman who has had more sexual partners than themselves. However, discussing sexual history with a partner can be fun. Between couples the actual numbers make very little difference and should never cause problems in the relationship.

Then there is the misconception that having a greater number of partners will make you a better lover. This is not true, as a recent survey has suggested. The amount of sex and lovemaking itself adds more to a person's own abilities than the number of partners. Long term partners can enhance and improve your sex life much more than a greater quantity of partners.

A couple living together will engage in sex more frequently at the beginning of the relationship but sex can begin to settle into routine and regular patterns after a while. The partners become more accustomed to each other's bodies and familiarity, although providing a good sex life, can sometimes become stale.

Sexual passion and the libido can rise as well as fall. Couples who are able to talk to each other about their passions and fantasies can help improve their sex lives dramatically. Changes can improve sex. Whether it involves acting out a fantasy, bringing in extra partners for swinging or buying some sexy lingerie or sex toys, a couple's sex life should not become dull.

Stability in the relationship can only improve someone's ability in bed. Whether male or female.

Couples who engage in new sex, trying something new or willing to play out their fantasies will learn more about themselves and be able to enjoy sex with others rather than those who have more sexual partners.

Being with someone new often involves 'regular' sex. The basics or foreplay, oral sex and the common positions that couples use such as the missionary position and doggy style. New couples and partners are often intimidated when discussing sex with someone new. They may not fully trust a new partner as much and are unable to fully communicate their own passions and desires.

Every new partner can add to that frustration of not being able to talk freely about sex so both men and women end up being good at the basics of sex but rarely do they become great lovers.

Of course, the growth of internet dating, seductive chat and cyber sex are opening up the discussion of fantasies amongst new couples. Knowing what you enjoy and finding someone willing to participate and perform with you will help.